I’ve never been a big fan of New Year resolutions. I’ve made some in the past and I’ve broken most. Last year was pretty good.
Every year since around 2006, I’ve been challenging people to forego the idea of a resolution, and instead, to come up with 3 words that will help you define your goals and experiences for the coming year. Resolutions are often too vague, or too directed towards one goal. It might be “quit smoking” or “lose 20 pounds” or “get hired.” These are all fine aspirations, but I challenge you to dig deeper, to find three words that could be used as lighthouses to guide you through stormy seas, that can be used as flags on the battlefield of your challenges, words that will bolster you and give you a direction that goes beyond the goals you might attach as a result of these words.
Relationships – I will strengthen relationships in 2012. Most of us have relationships in our lives that are broken or unhealthy that need to be fixed and improved. I am no exception. I’m sure there are many, but 4 such relationships come to mind: my relationship with God, my relationship with my wife and my relationship with my twins, Kaleb & Keegan. 2011 was a year of challenge, struggle and disappointment for me personally. Bad choices, responding in anger, communicating poorly. Not just by me. The Wienerdogs Indecent, getting in trouble at school, a joy ride that lead to totaling mom’s car. But that was last year. These relationships are the most important in my life and I plan to seek reconciliation, peace, healthiness and intimacy. I only have a few more years with my twins before they become independent, young men and leave home.
Believe it or not, I do have healthy relationships in my life. My relationship with my little people, Calvin & Corbin, come to mind, relationships with friends and co-workers, and my brothers and sisters in Christ.
These relationships are my life support group. When the challenges of life happen it is relationships that get us through. I plan to mend the relationships that need fixing and continue to strengthen the healthy relationships.
Regimen – I will create a plan and stick to it in 2012. A regimen is defined as a systematic plan. Regimens are what I hope to use to achieve my goals. I plan to read the Bible more consistently, to pray, to spend time with my family.
Regimen is also a synonym of diet. If I were to make one traditional resolution this year it would be to lose weight. I’m not sure what I am going to do just yet, but I am gonna do something.
Intentionality – I will be intentional in 2012. I’ve been thinking a lot about the concept of being intentional. If one does not perform regular maintenance or take the time to make proper preparations or plan for the future then they’re setting themselves up for trouble. It is an obvious life-lesson that many, many people overlook or ignore. You can’t just sit back and hope things will all work out. You have to be proactive. You have to have a focus. You have to be intentional. And do it in all aspects of life.
Which means that I will need to be a little more specific about my regimens.
As with life, this is a work in progress, in process. I’m just beginning to work on it, but at least I’m working on it.